January 2025: 

What Happened and How We Feel 

Month Description:

The narcissistic relationship has 3 elements to it (it could be argued that this is true of any relationship) – the traits, the behaviors, and how we are affected.   From my point of view, the most important part is the third part – how we are affected.  While there are some common themes and behaviors in all narcissistic relationships -for example – gaslighting – the types of behaviors that show up are not always the same, AND the ways that they affect us are DEFINITELY not the same (we learned all of that in Continuum Month).   Far too much effort is put into trying to understand whether or not the person or people in our lives is narcissistic that we do not spend enough time on addressing what actually happened in the relationship, how that affected us – and most importantly, how we feel.  This month is going to really create that focus on WHAT HAPPENS in these relationships and connecting it to HOW WE FEEL, with a goal of helping you understand what is healthy in a relationship, what is NOT healthy in a relationship, paying attention to how you feel, and not judging your feelings and experiences.  Most of us spend more time trying to make sense of why the narcissistic person does what they do, that we do not take the time to reflect on our own feelings, let’s take some time this month to shift that focus.