Self-Silencing Month

What do we give up to stay attached to narcissistic and antagonistic people?  That is the question we are taking on this month.   The primary thing we do – is we silence ourselves, and that can take many forms which we will discuss.  Attachment is a primary survival need, and in childhood - we are not aware that we are self-silencing, because our “selves” don’t really get to flourish or grow.   But not getting to develop our true identity is a form of self-silencing that happens insidiously within us.  In intimate relationships self-silencing is how we keep the trains running on time, can be part of our sympathetic nervous system responses, and can be something we learned to do without realizing that we were doing it.  This is the month when you find your volume button and learn to give voice to yourself, to understand how self-silencing has been working for you and find safe spaces in which to take yourself off mute.