The Small Victories:  Healing Through a Thousand Small Triumphs

Healing from Narcissistic Relationships

June 2025

Month Overview:

We all look forward to the day that we don’t think about the relationship(s) anymore, lean into our authenticity, and don’t spend lots of time on simple decisions because we doubt ourselves.  Some of you anticipate falling in love again and having another chance at a healthy relationship.  Some of you may think forward to a day when you have far less or even no contact with your families of origin.  You may be thinking about the divorce being finished, or the kids being old enough that the custody wars are over.  Some of you may be thinking about moving out and having a new place of your own where you aren’t walking on eggshells around a toxic partner or roommate.  You may think about leaving the job you are in and starting your own business or starting at a new place away from a toxic boss or workplace.  When we think of healing we think about the big things – of transformation, of major shifts in how we think and who we are, and how we go through the world.  We envision being healthier and ridding ourselves of the heaviness of being in these relationships.

But... it's kind of like being stuck in a frustrating job and only focusing on the vacation you’ve planned six months from now. Sure, that screensaver of your dream destination helps a little—but we need to figure out the small wins. 

This month builds on what we explored during Vision Board Month by focusing on the small triumphs we’ve experienced. It’s about elevating the lessons we reflected on last month and recognizing how these small wins play a vital role in healing. This is a great month for folks who are new to the program, because if you are just starting your healing journey, the small wins are where this begins (the big ones can feel so far off).  When the big ones feel far away, it can make healing feel distant too.  This month we will talk about what the small wins look like, how to notice them, and how to use them to pave a road to ongoing growth.