The Small Victories: Healing Through a Thousand Small Triumphs
Healing from Narcissistic Relationships
June 2025
Month Overview:
We all look forward to the day that we don’t think about the relationship(s) anymore, lean into our authenticity, and don’t spend lots of time on simple decisions because we doubt ourselves. Some of you anticipate falling in love again and having another chance at a healthy relationship. Some of you may think forward to a day when you have far less or even no contact with your families of origin. You may be thinking about the divorce being finished, or the kids being old enough that the custody wars are over. Some of you may be thinking about moving out and having a new place of your own where you aren’t walking on eggshells around a toxic partner or roommate. You may think about leaving the job you are in and starting your own business or starting at a new place away from a toxic boss or workplace. When we think of healing we think about the big things – of transformation, of major shifts in how we think and who we are, and how we go through the world. We envision being healthier and ridding ourselves of the heaviness of being in these relationships.
But... it's kind of like being stuck in a frustrating job and only focusing on the vacation you’ve planned six months from now. Sure, that screensaver of your dream destination helps a little—but we need to figure out the small wins.
This month builds on what we explored during Vision Board Month by focusing on the small triumphs we’ve experienced. It’s about elevating the lessons we reflected on last month and recognizing how these small wins play a vital role in healing. This is a great month for folks who are new to the program, because if you are just starting your healing journey, the small wins are where this begins (the big ones can feel so far off). When the big ones feel far away, it can make healing feel distant too. This month we will talk about what the small wins look like, how to notice them, and how to use them to pave a road to ongoing growth.
Module Overview
- Journal Prompt: Reflect on 3 things —big or small—that show your healing in any relationship (06/02/25) (2:34)
- Journal Prompt: How does healing differ between relationships you've ended and those you still have to engage with? (06/04/25) (2:58)
- Journal Prompt: Reflect on the differences, challenges, and wins in healing from different kinds of relationships (06/06/25) (3:43)
- Journal Prompt: Of the healing types we discussed in the workshop—cognitive, emotional, physical, spiritual, behavioral, structural, social—which has been hardest, which has flowed easiest, and where do you feel most at ease now? (06/09/25) (2:41)
- Journal Prompt: What is the element of healing that feels most difficult to you? (06/11/25) (2:54)
- Journal Prompt: What are some of the “shortcuts” you may have taken in your attempts to heal? How did that impact your process of healing? (06/13/25) (3:34)
- Journal Prompt: What were the factors associated with the greatest difficulties in your forward progress of healing? (06/16/25) (3:33)
- Journal Prompt: What have been some of your small triumphs? (06/18/25) (3:07)
- Journal Prompt: Do you ever struggle with balancing the difference between survival and your small victories? What is the difference between the two for you? (06/20/25) (3:54)
- Journal Prompt: How does reflecting on the small victories feel? (06/23/25) (2:59)
- Journal Prompt: We talked about retraining ourselves to notice the good. What makes that hard for you? Have you tried it outside of healing, and how do you balance it without slipping into bright siding?(06/25/25) (5:35)