Breaking out of the Helping Role (and other roles) Month

February 2026

Healing From Narcissistic Relationships

Month Overview:

When does “being of service” and “doing the right thing” jump from showing up and being part of a healthy relationship or system, to something that is taking a toll on you. And it isn’t that black and white, sometimes caregiving is the right thing to do but is also exhausting.   But sometimes helping, doing, being of service – is survival. This month we are going to unpack and explore how we “be” in relationship -and the WHY of it. How we feel when we can’t do these things, and how they become very automatic.  And how does this happen in narcissistic relationships? (hint, it’s the only way for it to work!).

Sometimes it’s ok to let someone else do the dishes, but it may feel so uncomfortable to let that happen that even though you are exhausted, it’s feels more comfortable in your body to get up and do it (then there is the double whammy of the narcissistic relationship, if you do say – this time someone else can do it, it will come back and bite you)!  Most survivors don’t just forget to put their oxygen masks on first, they often don’t put them on at all.