Flying Monkeys and Pollyannas: How Enablers
Impede Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
This month is about the enablers, and as many of you know, the enablers can do as much as harm as the narcissistic folks (and some of them may be narcissists as well). You know what they are about:
- Just give it a chance
- They don’t mean it when they say that
- They really do love you
- I get along just fine with them
- Why are you so hard on them?
- Relationships are hard
Healing from narcissistic abuse is variegated because some of you are leaving the narcissistic relationship, some of you are staying in it, and for 99 percent of you it is a hybrid. You are leaving some of these relationships and remaining in contact with others. And that hybrid is difficult because the enablers magnify your self-blame and self-doubt.
The concept of enabling got its start in the addiction world, but now it implies anyone who emboldens and empowers the toxic and antagonistic or problem behavior of another person, while minimizing or downplaying the experience of others. This month’s workshop will break down the types of enablers and what to do with them, the prompts will require you to lay out the enablers in your life (and you will learn that you probably have more enablers than healthy people in your life), the guided meditation will guide you away from them (or at least help you put them to the side)(!), and the Q & A will be an opportunity to bring those questions about how to manage the enablers in your life. Whether you are managing a divorce from a narcissist, co-parenting with one, or in a family with them – the enablers took an already difficult journey and made it far worse.
Use this month to move a major barrier in your trail and your journey of healing from narcissistic abuse. The enablers.